On the occasion of my 50th Birthday, I thought it’d be fun to write out 50 things I’ve learned in my life, perhaps as a gift to my sons, on how to live a good life. Some of these things are probably obvious, but a lot aren’t. And some are things I still struggle with […]
When I look at the world outside my window, I might notice a child on a bike, or a car speeding by. I might see a tree or the neighbor’s gutter, full of leaves. I might see my yard, in need of mowing, or the nice paint job on the house down the street.My attention […]
Existence is experience. If we don’t experience, we don’t exist. Many philosophical traditions operate from this point, and it’s impossible to refute. If there is no one to experience the universe, in what sense does it exist? Bringing this down to the human level, everything we do, we do in pursuit of positive experiences and to […]
I love Venn Diagrams, as a way to show where we are not in alignment, and how that causes our frustrations and failures. It becomes obvious when you see that you are only overlapping ever so slightly and when you are near total alignment. The first Venn Diagram I’d like to consider is the one […]
Have you ever wondered what it’s like to be a dog? Obviously, you wouldn’t be thinking in English. You would probably have a different experience of smell, time, direction. You would view humans in a way that I would assume is fundamentally different from how we view one another. But there would still be an […]
I was walking today through the woods when I started to think about fear and courage. I was wondering why some people are more courageous than others, why something that seems totally neutral to one person might raise enormous anxiety in someone else, why we rise above our fear and take action in one circumstance, […]
In ancient Greece, there was a belief in the Muse, the idea that creative inspiration came from a god, one of the muses. We don’t really think in those terms nowadays, and many people don’t believe in a personified God, who literally inspires us. But taking personal credit for our creations is a trap. Our […]
Have you ever dreamed of creating something, going somewhere, meeting someone, and immediately felt that it was impossible? One of the challenges my clients often face is wanting something that seems outside of their reality, out of reach. They might want to start a new business, but can’t see quitting their current job, or exiting […]
There was an article I read the other day, about feelings. This article told the story of a man who had a type of brain injury that resulted in his being disconnected from emotion. He was like a Vulcan, totally reasonable and objective. The trouble was, he couldn’t make any decisions. Not even what to […]
In working with my coaching clients, one of the biggest areas of opportunity is that around assumptions. Most of us operate in our businesses and daily lives as though many assumptions were true, when in fact they are not, or are at least unproven. We can’t be constantly questioning our reality, but there are often […]